Alison Miller’s outline of her presentation from the 2014 Annual Ritual Abuse, Secretive Organizations and Mind Control Conference
Please use caution while reading this presentation. It may be very triggering and you may want to read this with your therapist or a support person. All accusations are alleged. The conference and this transcript are educational and not intended as therapy or treatment.
Alison Miller is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Victoria, British Columbia, Canada. She is the author of 2012′s Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control (for therapists) and 2014′s Becoming Yourself: Overcoming Mind Control and Ritual Abuse (for survivors), both published by Karnac Books. Her topic is: Overcoming Mind Control: Keys to Recovery.
(Please note: The outline below is strictly the opinion of the author and not necessarily the opinion of the SMART newsletter or the webmaster.)
Overcoming Mind Control: Keys to Recovery
- Acknowledge your multiplicity. Mind control is entirely based on splitting the mind in infancy.
- The inner parts the abusers placed in charge of the personality system need to work together towards recovery, along with any self-created strong parts. If the front person is strong, s/he may also take part; if not, leave the front person out and let him/her do the job of managing everyday life.
- Improve your inner world, create a representative internal government, and give insiders new jobs to replace their old ones.
- Recovery begins with finding a way to become physically safe. Some survivors are currently safe; others are not. A safe roommate or spouse helps a lot. There are 3 types of access programming: report, return, and come when called. You can become unsafe if you start to remember or talk about things while these programs are still working.There’s no point in moving if you tell the abusers where you are. This may mean cutting off contact with your family.
- All programming is based on the BIG LIE. Let the whole system know that the BIG LIE is a lie. The abusers only know what you do or say or think if your reporter parts tell them or if someone you know tells on you. Although abuser groups do torture and kill, many or most of their threats are lies.
- You can choose whether to work through everything or just achieve stability. What you choose may depend on your age and health and present-day real-world responsibilities. Closed down and stable is not the same as healed; closed down people have hidden hurt children inside. But full healing takes a long time and works best with a skilled therapist.
- Once you are safe enough (not reporting and not currently accessed), you can begin the memory work which thoroughly undoes the programming. There is no shortcut to undoing programming.
- Make sure you choose a safe therapist, if you can afford one.
- If you choose to work through the memories, keep records of what you do, and make sure you include every inside part who has a piece of each memory you work through, especially “recycler” parts whose job is to hide pieces. Memory pieces include pain and emotions and drugs, not just story. The programming itself is usually in the words spoken.
- Integration and co-consciousness come naturally as a result of memory work; don’t focus on them.